We often hear clients express their desire for a "safe space" in therapy. While we absolutely prioritize your physical and emotional safety, we'd like to introduce the concept of "brave spaces," developed by Brian Arao and Kristi Clemens (From Safe Spaces to Brave Spaces). This approach reshapes how we approach both individual and group therapy settings, particularly for new mothers and those experiencing postpartum depression (PPD), by encouraging open, honest dialogue and growth through challenging conversations.

Understanding Safe Spaces vs. Brave Spaces

Traditionally, a safe space is viewed as a place free from discomfort or challenging situations. However, in therapy, we've found that safety doesn't always equal comfort. In fact, discomfort is often an inevitable part of the healing process.

In individual therapy, you might be asked to confront difficult memories or emotions. In group settings, you may hear experiences that differ from your own. These moments can feel uncomfortable, but they're crucial for growth and healing.

This is where our concept of "brave spaces" comes in. A brave space acknowledges that while you are physically and emotionally safe, therapy requires courage. It's a place where you can:

1. Face uncomfortable truths about yourself

2. Share vulnerable experiences

3. Listen to and empathize with others' perspectives

4. Challenge your existing beliefs and patterns

Brave Spaces in Action: Our Mothers' Group

Let's consider our mothers' group as an example. Motherhood can be a divisive topic, with strong opinions on various aspects of parenting. In our brave space:

• We don't expect everyone to parent the same way

• We don't require you to have identical experiences

• We do ask for empathy, respect, and a willingness to foster connection despite discomfort

Our group operates under these principles:

1. Agree to disagree

2. Don't take things personally

3. Challenge by choice (participate at your comfort level)

4. Respect others

5. No personal attacks

These guidelines help create an environment where mothers can share openly, support each other, and grow together, even when discussions become challenging.

Individual Therapy as a Brave Space

In one-on-one sessions, your therapist will create a brave space by:

• Encouraging you to explore difficult emotions

• Challenging unhelpful thought patterns

• Supporting you as you process trauma

• Helping you recognize and change recurring cycles

Remember, the discomfort you feel in these moments is often a sign of growth and healing.

Choosing to Be Brave

Whether you're considering individual therapy or joining a group, understanding the concept of brave spaces can help you make an informed decision. Look for therapists or groups that:

• Acknowledge that therapy can be uncomfortable

• Provide clear guidelines for respectful interaction

• Encourage personal growth and self-reflection

• Create an atmosphere of mutual support and empathy

Embracing Growth with Discomfort

As you embark on your therapy journey, we encourage you to welcome the discomfort that comes with it. In safe but brave spaces, you can learn not just to survive, but to thrive. Remember, every step you take in therapy, no matter how small or uncomfortable, is an act of bravery.

At our practice, we're committed to creating brave spaces where you can face your challenges, share your experiences, and grow into the person you want to be. Whether you're a new mother navigating the complexities of parenthood or someone dealing with other life challenges, we're here to support you on your journey to mental wellness.

Take the brave step. Reach out to us today to learn more about our individual and group therapy options.