by Shelli Armstrong

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, we're bombarded with advice on how to improve ourselves, our relationships, and our communities. From self-care routines to family responsibilities to civic engagement, we're constantly told that if we just give a little time here and there, we'll reap the rewards of a fulfilling and balanced life.

But what happens when those "little" tasks start to add up, slowly but surely filling our schedules to the brim with obligations and expectations? What begins as a five-minute skincare routine or a quick phone call to a friend can quickly snowball into a rigid and overwhelming schedule of "just five or ten minutes here, and another half hour to hour there."

As someone navigating the challenges of cancer treatment, I've become intimately familiar with the weight of these seemingly insignificant tasks. What starts as a single doctor's appointment can soon multiply into a dizzying array of medical visits, scans, and treatments, each demanding its own slice of my time and attention.

And it's not just the medical appointments that pile up. There are the daily rituals of self-care – the skincare routines, the mindfulness practices, the workouts – each promising to improve my well-being if only I devote a few minutes of my day to them. Then there are the familial obligations, the social commitments, the volunteer work – all important in their own right, but collectively creating a sense of overwhelm that is difficult to shake.

What's often overlooked is the cumulative effect of these "just a little" tasks. Individually, they may seem manageable, even beneficial. But when combined, they form a tangled web of expectations that can leave us feeling trapped and exhausted.

So what's the solution? How do we navigate this sea of demands without losing ourselves in the process? Perhaps it starts with a shift in mindset – a recognition that our time and energy are finite resources, and that it's okay to say no to the things that don't truly align with our values and priorities.

It's about setting boundaries, both with others and with ourselves, and being intentional about how we choose to spend our time. It's about letting go of the guilt and perfectionism that often accompany our efforts to "do it all," and instead embracing the messy, imperfect beauty of simply being human.

So the next time you find yourself overwhelmed by the accumulation of "just a little" tasks, take a step back and reassess. Ask yourself what truly matters to you, and focus your time and energy accordingly. Remember that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being, and that sometimes, the most powerful act of self-care is simply giving yourself permission to take a break.