This post challenges the idea that desire has to strike spontaneously before intimacy can occur. It encourages couples to shift the mindset from "Am I in the mood?" to "Am I willing to try to get in the mood?" through conscious, intimate exploration together like sensual massage or reading erotica. With patience and vulnerability, engaging in these intimate experiences can slowly coax desire awake, without demanding it arrive fully formed. The key is intentionally prioritizing and making space for intimacy.